“Stuck” & unable to move through the normal “stages” of grief (Denial/numbness, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance)
Here's what healing looks like:
You aren’t “stuck” anymore, and are moving through the stages of grief (“DABDA “) in a healthy way:
You’re adjusting & learning to live with your loss
You realize you are beginning to spend less time grieving
Memories begin to take on a “bittersweet” feel
You are learning to cope with your loss, and can heal
The intensity of your feelings begin to decrease
You are capable of living a happy and more fulfilling life
Your loss no longer dominates your mental & emotional landscape
It’s important to be aware that you will never be “finished” grieving, and you won’t move on as though it never happened.
At some point, we all need to deal with loss and grief. Talking to someone who knows how to deal with the grieving process can help.
If your parents taught you to deal with loss and grief, and if you have emotional support from family and friends who understand the stages of grief, you may be better equipped to deal with your loss. But if these are lacking, grief counseling can be especially beneficial.
Overcoming loss and grief comes down to going through it. Facing your anger and sadness, accepting this change in your life, and embracing the challenges that come with it will make you stronger. Running away from sadness and pain only prolongs the suffering. If not properly handled, grief can get much worse when something else of a similar nature happens down the road -“present trauma brings back past trauma”.
There is no time-frame for overcoming grief. It really comes down to how close an individual was to someone who has passed. However, as long as you face the pain, the emotions and mindset that accompany grief can fade over time.
During a grief counseling session, your issues will be discussed, as will your abilities to handle such emotions. Your therapist will work with you to develop a method to help you endure and experience pain, so you can understand and overcome it. It is healthy for you to grieve, so that you can come out stronger, and not be held back by your loss.
You’ll take breaks during your grieving process so that your life isn’t defined by negativity during the ordeal. Getting through the stages of grief sounds much scarier than it actually is, and it’s easier when you have an experienced guide.
Counseling sessions are generally an hour long, and happen weekly, with durations and frequency diminishing over time.
Through grief counseling, you’ll be able to manage your life, emotions, and mindset better. On the other side of our time together, you’ll also be able to teach your techniques to loved ones who are suffering.
By adjusting to a life without someone you’ve loved, you’ll learn to live with loss, and eventually spend less time grieving. Memories that induce sadness will actually become happy memories that you’ll appreciate with proper grief counseling.
Ultimately, learning to cope with loss will help you regulate the intensity of your feelings. You’ll be able to live a happy and fulfilling life, rather than just “get over” someone. Your loss won’t determine your emotional and mental states.
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On the other side of our time together, our goal is for you to experience:
Increase in ability to live with your loss
Gradually realize you're beginning to spend less time grieving
Decrease in the intensity of your feelings of grief
Beginning to realize you're capable of living a happy and more fulfilling life
Your loss is no longer dominating your mental & emotional landscape
a more fulfilling, enjoyable life
The end result is to help you make step by step changes that result in a more fulfilling, enjoyable life.
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Have Any Questions?
Here’s my FAQ, or I would be happy to answer any questions you may have. When I’m in session it’s not possible to answer phone calls, so it’s best to call & leave me a detailed voicemail message at 253-952-4147. You can typically expect a reply from me within 24 hours.